Sorry for this will be a long post. I know of several people that are thinking about having weight loss surgery and figured they should know some of the things that happen that the Dr’s DON’T tell you about.
Things they don’t tell you about weight loss surgery
To qualify for surgery you have to go through MULTIPLE months of tests and Dr office visits before they will cut you. They will send you to a psychiatrist. Therapists. Dieticians. You’ll have procedures before they cut like EGD, blood work, echos and stress tests. You go through the wringer. They tell you about the actual weight loss. The HAIR LOSS. And they tell you “some” of the side effects, like there is a really good chance you’ll need your gallbladder removed eventually (that means just months later). And they tell you the more skin you have the more likely it won’t just snap back into place.
But they don’t tell you EVERYTHING!
They put you on a whole regimen of pills. Iron, calcium, b12, chewables, etc. But they DON’T tell you that those iron pills……they keep you from going to the bathroom. I mean you are sitting on the toilet crying, big fat baby tears. You can get hemorrhoids from trying to force it. I would rather go out and lick a cow to get the iron I need than to take those pills. Believe me, Google has been my friend to find foods high in iron so I don’t have to take those anymore.
You’ll have joint pain. I am not talking about owie, I am talking about oh my god my arm is falling off. My right elbow hurts so bad sometimes that I can’t even pick up a pencil. The compression sleeve I wear really helps keep the elbow in check so I don’t straighten it up all the way or bend it all the way either. It has truly been a god send. I am not 100000% sure what causes this but was told that the ligaments don’t repair and shrink as fast as the fat and muscles do, so that can cause injuries to joints. I am almost to the point where I will have to wear a sleeve on my knee too because just doing my job every day is tearing it up. Every time I climb in and and have to climb back out of the trailers, I feel it.
Your blood press is going to drop. Yes they tell you that if you have high blood pressure and are on drugs you will probably not be on them for long. They say your blood pressure will drop and you’ll be fine. But here is the thing. You will definitely drop your blood pressure, mine at one time was 150/90 and now it’s 111/65. But that’s when I am running around a Dr’s office. When I am not doing anything its drastically lower. When I first had the surgery THIS was the problem that kept me from coming back to work as soon as they wanted. I would pass out EVERY time I stood up. I would get up in the middle of the night and find myself on the floor with no clue on how I got there. I really had to learn how to deal with this. How to sit up slowly. How to take a second for everything to move BEFORE getting out of bed. How to make sure i never get dehydrated because that drops your blood pressure more. I had to learn to keep a G2 next to the bed to give me a little boost when I first woke up. I am really glad I figured that problem out.
MY ASS HURTS. I am not talking like I got spanked, I am talking like when someone pulls a chair out from under you and you land on your tail bone. My ass hurts that bad sometimes. It hurts bad enough that I have gotten physically sick from the pain. It is usually when I have sat in a vehicle for too long (that’s a great problem for a semi truck driver to have). It’s because you lose ALL the muscle and fat in your booty. Its because its flat as a pancake. What is left is droopy and is not in the position it needs to be in. What can you do for droopy ass? Squats, Lunges, and buy a donut. Yep, if I know I am going to be stuck in a car I have to bring my own security pillow. Luckily I got a really good tractor at work that keeps me from bringing my donut there (who knows the boys might try to eat it).
And you know that hair loss they told you about? It also means your nails are going to turn to crap. You’ll break them and they will split and get little grooves in them. Your nails are really going to take a hit.
They also didn’t tell you what would REALLY happen when you ate something you shouldnt. For me the first time it was a pork chop. I love pork chops, I would probably even knick named one of my kids that. But the first time I tried to eat it I thought I was going to have to call an ambulance. I broke out in a complete body sweat. My heart was racing so fast I thought it was going to come out of my chest. I couldn’t even throw up, my stomach wouldn’t let me. I was just clear stuff for about 3 hours. To this day, 5 months later, I still won’t touch them. I know better. To a lesser degree pizza does the same thing, really any bread product doesn’t settle well.
They tell you how more physically fit you’ll be. How you’ll be able to do so much more, which is true. I ran my second 10K in the same amount of time as my first 5K before the weight came off. That’s a major accomplishment. But they DO NOT tell you how much weaker you’ll be. I was pretty strong before the surgery. I could carry 2 50 lb baths of horse feed to the barn at one time before. Just throw each up on my shoulders and go. But after the surgery. ……I picked up my luggage once and could barely move it. So I figured it was way over the 50 lb limit and shipped some stuff back home instead of taking a chance at the airport. When I got to the airport, my bag only weighed 24 lbs. Would have been 37 lbs before I took stuff out. I turned into a weakling! 8 months later I am still not able to “throw my weight around” and move heavy stuff like I did before. You lose a lot of muscle when you lose the fat too. It takes a long while to get it back and it’s a very slow journey.
Shopping can take forever now. There’s no I’m just going to run in and grab a pair of shorts and a t shirt. You now have to try clothes on. I mean lots of clothes. You’ll go in thinking you are a size 16 and really be a 12. And those Bermuda shorts are going to look OK but not great on you so you try a shorter inseam and find that the 3.5 inch looks the best on you. You never wore shorts that short before. So you start to wonder if you look slutty in these smaller clothes. Now you need to ask other peoples opinion. But you you won’t really believe them. (Hint have people take pics of you in clothes so you can really see how you look in them. Those dressing room mirrors play mind games)
You’re going to annoy EVERYONE. That’s right. You will be this annoying person that wants everyone to get healthy too. You’ll start to preach like a sinner who finally found church. It will almost be a calling to spread the gospel of weight loss. And believe me, not everyone wants to hear it. They might be curious and want to know what you did but they don’t really want to know the details. And the heavy people in your life, they REALLY don’t want to hear it. They haven’t had their breakthrough moment yet. The moment where they decide to take matters in their own hands. So they really wish you would shut up. But you cant. You are happy and want everyone else to be happy too. Even if they ARE happy you think you know better and want to push them towards YOUR happiness.
Also people are going to annoy the shit out of you. They are going to ask “Aren’t you done losing weight?” They don’t realize that you have no control over it. That the surgery decides how much you lose. That all you do is stick to the plan and things will even out in the end. They ask this question and I tell them I have 13 more pounds to go and they almost get mad about it. They say I am too small already. That’s because ether are used to seeing me quite a bit larger. I ask them point blank, how much do you think I weigh. The answer is usally around 125-130, when I say 173 they are SHOCKED. The thing is I are still in the overweight catagory according to my Dr. 160 puts me right on the borderline of what is healthy. So when you have people be judgy and think you are going to the extreme, just trust on yourself. You know what you have been through more than anyone else does.
There is probably a hundred more tiny things that they don’t tell you about but that’s the big stuff. The stuff that makes you wonder if you did the right thing. But in matter what negative side effect I have, I have would do the surgery again tomorrow. Best decision of my life.
-from inside the mind of a fat girl